May 22, 2017 by John Andrew Williams
When I was a kid, I wished I had a muscular friend who could step into my life at times and give me confidence to face my fears. I was bullied throughout Elementary School, and it took years for me to realize that I needed to trust others to help me when dealing with difficult peers.
When it comes to life coaching, sometimes we feel a pressure during a call that makes us feel nervous, insignificant and unhelpful. It’s the bully from the playground, but it sounds a lot like our own voice in our heads. While this self-criticism can be strong, the good news is that we don’t have to rely on ourselves to be stronger. We have a secret weapon: The Coaching Process.
The International Coach Federation expects higher level coaches to trust the process to add value instead of feeling like they need to add the value to their sessions personally. This is especially true for Master Certified Coaches, but it is a helpful perspective for every coach starting from Day 1.When you are in the midst of a coaching session, and you are worried about the value you are providing the client, keep this in mind: “I don’t need to provide value for my client.” When we let go of the need to provide value ourselves, we tend to listen more effectively. It also prompts us to ask more questions that are natural to the session itself instead of being canned, and facilitate a process that adds a great deal of value.
Here are some guidelines to help you deal with that internal bully and trust the coaching process:
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