Ask someone you know if you can practice a life coaching exercise with them. Let them know that it is easy and will only take about 3 to 5 minutes of their time.
Start by asking them a question to prompt a story, such as:
- What was one of the best days of your life?
- What’s one of your favorite things to do?
- What have you always dreamed of doing?
Listen empathetically. Focus completely on what the other person is saying. If you find yourself not focused on your practice client or if your mind is drifting off on your own thoughts, what you are going to say next, or your own experience, deliberately recover back to empathetic listening.
To keep the conversation going, you can ask these kinds of follow-up questions:
- What was important to you about that day? How does it make you feel to think about that day?
- What else do you enjoy doing? How do these activities make you feel?
- What stopped you from pursuing this? Why did it stop you?
In general, you will find that questions like this will really keep the person talking, and your attention will keep them active in the subject matter.