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The Can't or Haven't Yet Difference

The Powerful Paragraph

During writing coaching sessions, it’s not uncommon for me to hear clients say, “I can’t [insert task here].” “I can’t write strong dialogue.” “I can’t capture emotion well.” “I can’t figure out what my main character really wants.” After going through many of these coaching sessions and trying to work through the problem, I’ve come to this conclusion: It’s not that my clients can’t do these things, it’s that they haven’t done them yet. And that’s often more intimidating than simply stating that they cannot do it. Saying you “can’t” do something excuses you from putting in the effort to try, and ultimately protects you from potential failure. However, with a shift in perspective, my clients can see that there is excitement and joy in learning how to master a new skill. And with that excitement and joy comes the motivation to persist through the challenge.

The Powerful Question to Ponder

How can you shift from “I can’t” to “I just haven’t done it yet”?

About powerful paragraph

About Powerful Paragraphs

Designed to mimic coaching questions.

  • Four or five sentences to give a little context and an open-ended question.
  • Start your day with a little boost of inspiration and insight.

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Coaching to Flourish #094: The Coaching Approach to Advice-Giving

Author CTEDU

Coach Training EDU

November 15, 2023

In Coaching to Flourish #094, host Raj Anderson and CTEDU founder John Andrew Williams address a listener question about the delicate balance of providing advice as a coach, exploring the nuances of client expectations, how and why to offer advice, and the transformative power of maintaining a curiosity-driven environment. Whether a new or seasoned coach, this conversation will help you deepen your understanding of who you are in the coaching space.

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Episode 093: Designing Powerful Alliances

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Coach Training EDU

October 25, 2023

In Coaching to Flourish #093, host Raj Anderson along with CTEDU founder John Andrew Williams dive into the essential practice of designing an alliance for successful coaching partnerships. They discuss how this approach can foster effective communication and growth in various aspects of life, how it creates more fulfilling and productive coaching sessions, and important tips for new coaches. Join us in exploring this foundational coaching concept!


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