After living on the road for so long, we’ve acclimated to spending a large chunk of time planning the next phase of the trip. From where we were going to stay, to whom we were going to see, and what we were going to do, we’ve been in hyper-planning overdrive with everything so new. On … Read more The New versus the Routine.
On this journey of visiting new places every two to three weeks, we’ve developed a few guidelines. One of the guidelines is to consider the first time visit a first draft. If it’s great, that’s fantastic. If it needs a revision, then we give ourselves the grace to come back and plan a better visit. … Read more It’s Only a First Draft.
My wife Amois and I talked a lot about how this year-long, cross-country trip would change us. We imagined how different and wiser we’d be when we finally returned back to Oregon. It’s nearly 14 months later, and we’re now on Portland’s doorstep, just 3o minutes south of the city. I’ll see the city on … Read more How Will a Year Change You?
The landing gear is out. I’m not sure I’m ready for the homestretch, that last bit of the race when I can see the finish line. I’m noticing the little things that I truly enjoy about this phase of life. I’m going slower and enjoying the process from a perspective of nostalgia. What does it … Read more When the Landing Gear is Out.
When setting out on a journey, especially the entrepreneurship journey, there’s a temptation to have each next step laid out in perfect clarity. But it’s a trap that leads to procrastination. It’s only when you take a step that you gain the vantage point to know where to go next. Even when purpose is clear, … Read more The Next Step.
An important tool in life coaching is making distinctions. What’s the difference between success and fulfillment? What’s the different between attention and focus? Much of the time we focus on the similar aspects of perception, but the mind is also designed to look at what makes something different from something else as a way to … Read more Similarities versus Differences
I took a standup comedy course led by Alex Falcone, a Portland-based comedian. He had a rule: out of every nine jokes you come up with, 8 will be bad. You have to bust through those 8 jokes to get to that 9th. The goal changes from making something good, to simply making something. What’s … Read more The Rule of 9
The word failure comes from an old French word meaning non-occurrence. It’s surprisingly close to the Latin word for failure deficere, which shares the same root as the word perfect. The prefix de- means away from; the prefix per- means through. Both words carry the same root to make. When looking at the difference between … Read more Origin of Failure
The point isn’t trying to be perfect. Tough challenges come up, and positive streaks get broken. The trap is judging oneself too harshly and giving up on the project. Coaching points out another way: assessing what happened and designing a way to recover quickly. What’s your way of recovering when a streak, for example, workouts, … Read more It’s All About Recovery.
“She hasn’t seen this movie yet.” “The baby is sleeping.” It’s good to get a heads up so you don’t say something to disturb the situation. A quick piece of information up front can save hours of agony later, especially if that baby wakes up. Imagine taking as much care with your inner dialogue, the … Read more You’re on speakerphone.