A friend recently got a contract extension. It’s a big deal that let’s him live abroad, let’s him live his dream life. He texted me, “I’m so thankful and yet at the same time a part of me is looking for all the ways it could go wrong.” It’s a part of everyone that doubts, … Read more Love that Part of You Too.
Just because you can’t see it, doesn’t mean it’s not there. So often we get stuck seeing only from our limited perspective. It’s 12 noon, yet the moon is shining brightly. You look up and see only the sun. What happens when you shift your perspective to the other side of the world?
One of my favorite things to do in a chess match against a computer is to switch sides and see the board from the other direction. Insights pop out looking at an opponent’s view of opportunities and vulnerabilities. Imagine you were playing life chess against a mysterious opponent. When you’re doing well, your opponent is … Read more What does the situation look like backwards?
I’ve been working at the library at Dixie State University this week. There’s a bell tower that rings out each hour. In the past, the bell tower’s importance of creating order for a community was a tremendous service. Now that we each carry devices that tell the time, this antiquated bell serves a perhaps even … Read more The Bell Tower.
Knowing how much time to give a project before bailing is one of the hardest parts of building a company. Accuracy in judging someone’s or your own ability to complete a project as well as understanding the difficulty of the project gives you an advantage. But growth mindset tells us that with enough effort we … Read more How long do you give yourself to figure it out?
Perhaps the quintessential challenge in life is to inch our way toward being more and more internally referenced while keeping an eye on the results. External results offer clues and learning. But it takes effort and courage and guts to maintain the forward momentum. Nurturing the courage and capacity for learning is the entrepreneur’s journey. … Read more Internal vs External Reference [Part 2 of 2]
Reference point is how you judge how you are doing. Internally referenced looks at how hard you are working, how much effort you are putting in. Externally referenced looks at the results you are getting. The key is finding your balance point. What’s your ideal balance between internal and external reference?
The wise entrepreneur asks not what she can gain but what she can give. The external work is getting the tasks done, and the internal work is trusting in the effort. Peace of mind comes from knowing you have enough. Joy comes from knowing you are giving enough. How do you know you’re giving enough?
When we show up as life coaches, we cannot help but bring some of ourselves into the conversation. We bring our intuition into coaching sessions through our choice of powerful questions. We bring our unique coaching style. We bring our perspective. When we recognize how we show up in a session, we can mindfully serve … Read more When to Not Bring Yourself
Habits impact the foundation of success you will experience in your life and willpower can only serve as a limited resource in the creation of positive habits. When attempting to create new and positive habits, it is important that we listen and embrace the cue (what sparks the habit), examine the patterns/systems already in place, … Read more How do you create a new habit?